Part 5: Lessons We Can Learn From This Case

This article comes in five parts:
Part 1: PSA Came Tumbling Down: From 6,963 to 200 and Severe Pains Vanished
Part 2: Grim Prognosis
Part 3: Miraculous Healing
Part 4: Bonus Effects and Challenges
Part 5: Lessons We Can Learn From This Case

I believe one of the reasons why CA Care has been successful all these years is because we adopted the attitude that patients are our teachers. We can learn a lot from our patients. But if we treat patients as only numbers or record cards, then we remain deaf, dumb and blind to their problems and healing. So how can we really help them?

Our Advice to All Patients

 

Advice No 1: Be Patient and Be Grateful

So please be patient.  I am aware that you and your family are suffering but what can we do? Remember healing takes time.  There is no instant or magic bullet for cancer. I often say this to patients: If you can eat, can sleep and have no pains – Be Happy! At least in this case, the patient can still move about without any pain using the wheelchair.

I asked the patient: Reflect back on where you were one year ago. Are you better off now? Yes, absolutely.  Remember, this patient and his family was under extreme stress and uncertainty not too long ago. His wife lost 9 kg and his daughter also lost 9 kg within just a few weeks. Now, all is well except that the patient cannot walk by himself yet or eat anything he likes.

Learn to be contented and to be grateful for what we are each day. Don’t let unrealistic greed overcome us.

Advice No 2: Share your problem and also your success with others

How did Budi know of your problem? The daughter replied: I was lost and did not know what to do when cancer struck my father. I shared my problem with all my friends. And one of her friends is Pak Budi. And Pak Budi benefited from our therapy!

Indeed, it is good to share your problems with others. Who knows others may offer you some solutions – giving you a different perspective of how to solve your problem. Unfortunately, some people don’t want to share. They get struck in the rut – lost in the maze and do not know what to do.

Unfortunately, there is a down side of sharing. Some friends would probably offer you solutions that could lead to a disaster. With many suggestions – good or bad – you will get confused. As the daughter said:  Some told me that without chemotherapy, the cancer would spread faster!

 In fact, this is the selling point of most doctors and oncologists. They would say: With chemotherapy or radiotherapy, at least you can control the cancer. Or at least we can stop it from spreading even if we cannot cure it.

What a misinformation! Latest researches had shown that chemotherapy makes the cancer more aggressive and makes the cancer spread faster! Look out for our article (coming soon):  Chemotherapy SPREAD and MAKES cancer more aggressive!

Sharing your success: Pak, do you want me to cover your face in this video presentation? No, no. Let me share my experiences with others. I committed NO crime. There is nothing shameful about this.

My response: Yes, you have not committed any sin either. All of us do get sick – it is just a matter of how serious the illness it. I believe this story will be able to help and inspire others. This success has impacted me very much. In fact, this gives me all the reason why I should continue with our work at CA Care – success like this!

Advice No 3: Take care of your diet

Pak, take care of your diet! Do not take sugar or oil (fats). Visiting Surabaya and Malang, I observed that Indonesians here take too much sugar! They put sugar in everything they eat! The even put sugar is mee bakso! Sugar is not good for you!

Why this patient succeeded in finding his healing?

Almost all people who come to seek our help expect us to cure them. No, we cannot cure you. And only 30 percent who come find healing. You may want to ask how.  I shall give you the answer based on this case.

  • 1. Commitment and belief: The patient’s daughter wrote me an e-mail on 8 February 2012 from a far away land – 3 hours flight from Penang. On 10 February 2012, she was sitting with us at CA Care Penang trying to figure out what to do for her father. Don’t you see her commitment and belief? She was serious. On the contrary I have many e-mails asking for help – but they only want to do it by sitting in front of the computer! Some even told me that they would like an appointment 2 to 3 months later! But such people never turn up anyway. 

Granted, I learned from our conversation that the family was doubtful initially. Good – be skeptical.  Learn from this quotation: The business of science is to seek new knowledge, To test old assumptions And approach what we think we know with a skeptical eye ~ B. Barnes.

It is foolish to believe everything that you are told – even by your doctors! And it is equally foolish to believe all information found in the Internet.

This patient’s confidence grew when, after a month on our therapy and hormonal injection, his PSA came down by 50 percent. Go by the evidence and your experience and NOT what others tell you.

2. Willingness to share:  The value of sharing can work both ways – good or bad. In this case, the patient’s family was at a lost – bengong. They did not know what t do and what path to take. Patient’s daughter shared her problem with all her friends. This sharing resulted in Pak Budi telling her about CA Care. Pak Budi has firsthand experience with CA Care. His PSA also dropped after taking our herbs and changing his diet. If you want to believe someone, find someone who really has firsthand experience, not one who only blows hot air!

  • 3. Willingness to change: To take a new path which you have not gone through before is stressful enough and  to be told to change your diet and lifestyle which you have been used to for ages, would be real hard – impossible for some people.  Then you have to contend with the herbs which taste bitter and smell awful. So this is your choice – take it or go find something easier to follow.

4. Strong family support: Cancer does not only involve a patient, it involves everyone in the family.  The lives of everyone in the family are turned upside down when cancer strikes a member of the family. No doubt about that. And everyone in the family suffers. And for the patient to survive, he/she needs strong support from his/her spouse and children besides those close to him/her. I do not see how any patient can make it without the love and support of those around him/her.

Let me share what I learned from this amazing case.

1. Most people do not know anything about cancer. So when cancer strikes someone in the family everyone panic and did not know what to do. Within the next few days, the patient and his/her family will have to submit to treatments. But what treatment?  That is a big and sometime life-and-death question to answer.

How many of us take this Chinese proverb seriously – Dig the well before you are thirsty. In this case, the patient was lucky. Someone else has already dug a well! He found a short-cut to knowledge through Pak Budi, his daughter’s friend.

Over the years I have realized that knowledge is important and as such we, at CA Care, make it our mission to educate those who want to know about cancer so that we are not caught unaware.

Perhaps, some people don’t want to know about this dreaded disease. Some Chinese believe it is soi  (bad luck) getting involved in something evil when you are still healthy. My breast cancer book was displayed in one exclusive club in Penang. I was told NO one would even give it a glance! After all, if you are rich what is there to worry? If you happen to get cancer, there is always the best hospital to go to. Then there is the best oncologist to take care of you. And they will give you the best and most expensive poison to fight your cancer. That’s what you naïve mind would tell you – your money can buy you a cure.

Don’t you think that if you don’t know a road map, you will get lost? Of course, you would say: I have the money to hire a guide! But what if your expensive guide would only show you one – and only one – track to take?

My patient and friend, the late SK Chew told me: I saw the oncologist. He told me to do the chemo. When I saw everybody do chemo, everybody do radiotherapy, I told myself this must be the only way.  I went back to the doctor and asked him to do the chemo on me. So Chew  underwent both chemotherapy and radiotherapy. He did not get well but instead ended up with more tumours in his liver.  And they were growing in size. Chew said: I knew then that I had taken the wrong path. I started to find other ways. In this case, Chew was lucky. He survived the treatment. Some died during or after the aggressive, toxic treatment.

2. Before we parted, this patient made a request. Please do more research and come up with a new cure for him. I understood his request and his hope. For a sick person – he only has one request or aim in life –  to get well again. And some patients would go to any extent to achieve this. Unfortunately in cancer, the game is difficult and to score a goal is extremely remote.

There is nothing wrong to hope but patients beware! There are enough vultures around ever ready to exploit this weakness of yours. These days treatment of cancer is a big money making business – for both the doctors and the alternative healers. So beware. Don’t just buy into anything that promises you an instant cure for your cancer. I know of nothing that can really cure cancer.

These days when you get cancer and is being treated in a private hospital, be ready to spend RM 100,000 to RM 200,000 for the treatment. And the upper limit? It can run into millions, that is, if you have the money to spend or are still alive to receive the treatment. You can be told to take drugs that can cost RM 10,000 to RM 20,000 per month but they do not cure anything! At best they prolong your life (or misery) by a few days, weeks or months. What good is that? Click here to read more:

https://cancercaremalaysia.com/2011/05/27/dissecting-chemotherapy-part-4-how-much-is-life-worth-erbitux-for-lung-cancer/

https://cancercaremalaysia.com/2011/05/27/dissecting-chemotherapy-part-6-avastin-does-not-cure-cancer/

https://cancercaremalaysia.com/2012/11/13/part-1-the-high-cost-of-staying-alive-in-a-private-hospital/

  • 3. This patient was told that for those with PSA 1,000 and above they better get ready to die! And what about this patient who had a PSA of 6,962? How soon would he die? But, as I often tell patients: Believe the diagnosis but do not believe the prognosis!

Reflect of the quotation below:

Wrong

Patient-knows-best

 CA Care: Making a Difference and Putting a Smile Back on Your Face

When patients come to us they need encouragement. On the other hand, we – the healers – also need encouragement.

Let me just quote what Dr. Seymour Brenner, a radiologist from New York said:  The frustration of cancer is that we really don’t know what we are doing … it is frustrating thing to go to school for 30 years, to work for 20 … and at the age of 60 not know what you’re doing.

Dr. Bernie Siegel, a surgeon wrote: Too many doctors are depressed because they only see their failures – all you know is that everyone has cancer, everyone dies. And it just wears you out.

 

Study this video carefully.  When the patient’s daughter and daughter-in-law came to seek our help on 11 February 2012, none of us dared to smile! The situation was too grim then. The prognosis was not good. I must frankly say that I did not see any glimmer of hope in this case!

But look at the video clip taken a year later, 13 February 2013.

Indeed, what we do at CA Care does make a difference! A great difference! We are able to put smiles back onto everyone’s faces! This is indeed most satisfying which no amount of money can ever buy. Praise the Lord!

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