Mary’s Story: A Family’s Journey With Cancer

by Sue Stedman (Author), Jim Stedman (Contributor), Matt Stedman (Contributor), Anne Stedman Herwick (Contributor)

This is a unique diary, principally written by Sue Stedman (mother) about her daughter’s (Mary) cancer journey. This is a sad, heart-breaking story that kept me awake, on certain days to read up to 2.30 a.m.

This was what happened ….

  • In early July 1986, 22-year-old Mary went water skiing with some friends. She fell several times. The doctor suspected she had a hematoma (a localized collection of blood outside the blood vessels) in her leg.
  • Mary underwent an operation. Unfortunately, it turned out to be a low-grade malignant tumour of a type that particularly afflicts young people and she had a 60/40 chance.
  • The type of tumour Mary had was so rare, they would have to call around the country to get some consensus about what treatment they might try and what the percentages on its success might be. 
  • What came back was that we were in deep shit. This was a sarcoma — the type of cancer that is not responsive to radiation or chemo … rare, stubborn and aggressive.
  • Anyway, there was not much choice. Mary underwent about 6 weeks of radiotherapy.
  • It was too much to do the radiation and chemo simultaneously, but it was the doctors’ opinion that we had no time to lose. If there were metastases in the bloodstream, and they grow into tumours, chemo wouldn’t help — our only chance was to try to zap the little suckers now. He (oncologist) was convincing, Jim and I (both parents) were solidly together in urging it as “insurance”.
  • Chemotherapy was then started.
  • Mary shared her initial chemo experience.
  • It all went downhill. All night long I was so sick. I felt very nauseated. I had never been ill (vomited) that many that many times in my life. I almost wanted to end it I felt so terrible.
  • Then they gave me some medicine, and I finally started feeling better.
  • I took a shower today and then started to brush it slowly. I looked at my brush and there seemed to be a few extra hairs in it. Then I pulled at the hairs in my head and sure enough 15 or so were coming out at a time. It’s happening … I/m losing my hair! Over the days more and more came out.
  • I’m going to do it! Mom and I went into the bathroom and she started to cry …. We used the shears and cut, cut, cut …. I was standing there bald as a billiard ball.

 

  • The next “crisis” .. the effects of the radiation were like a gigantic sunburn. This played havoc with her just-barely-healed surgery scar, making it swell and weep.

 

  •  Mary had a high fever. Their suspicion was that the inside tip of the catheter had gotten infected. Mary was put on antibiotics.

 Mary shared more of her experiences.

  • My hair is slowly but surely growing back. It is now 1/4 of an inch high.
  • I went to try to start my 3rd treatment. My blood count was still too low!

 4 March 1987: Mary completed her final 4th cycle of chemo.

 4 June 1987 (three months later): CT scan showed three small dots on her left lung and one in her right lung … they compared it to a previous CT scan … but, no, it was new. 

25 June 1987: They told us if we did nothing more, Mary would have about a year to live … there were now 4 or 5 (spots) in her left lung. There was a remote chance surgery would help.

 2 July 1987: Mary underwent an operation of her left lung. The surgeon found 12 tumours instead of 3 or 4. I became convinced there was no way this was going to be a cure. 

18 September 1987: The oncologist said, it was growing in the right lung and already showing up again in the left one … we were not talking about surgery as a possible cure … they really didn’t have a cure …. surgery might add weeks or months, but it would be one surgery after another … I ‘d rather live whatever time I had left doing what I enjoy. it seemed to me like it was time to put it in God’s hand.

 17 January 1988: Mary suffered internal bleeding.

 26 January 1988: Mary had a second surgery. It was a mess. It was so bad …. The bottom lobe of her right lung was removed. 

  • Mary lost a lot of weight and we tried to at least push Instant Breakfast to get a few pounds on her … she began vomiting and vomiting .. she couldn’t keep anything down.

 10 February 1988: Admitted to hospital for pneumonitis.

 30 March 1988: Need oxygen for breathing. She was having an anxiety attack, primarily from oxygen deprivation … and couldn’t sleep well at night.

 5 April 1988: One symptom or another …. nausea had been a major one …. Mary practically didn’t eat anything — it was too hard to swallow — too much trouble — and she wasn’t hungry. She had nausea pills, sleeping pills, cough medicine.

7 April 1988: Mary really couldn’t talk now — she could whisper out a few things .. but couldn’t make herself understood.

8 April 1988: 8:45 a.m. She was all practical purposes in a coma. Her breathing was labored … she couldn’t be roused when you called her name. Occasionally Mary’s breathing would kind of hitch — she’d stop breathing for a few seconds — and then start up again. Finally came a “hitch” that didn’t restart. Then it was over. No trumpets, no screams, nothing dramatic … the entrance or exit of the breath of God in a human being.

 It has been a long 20 month’s journey, and it was time to rest.

For her Holy Card for the funeral, Mary personally chose these words from the Bible – James 4:13-15.

Now listen to me, you who say, Today or tomorrow we will travel to a certain city, where we will spend a year, and go into business and make much money. You do not even know what your life tomorrow will be like! For you are like a thin fog, which appears for a moment and then disappears. This, then, is what you should say: If the Lord is willing, we will live and do this and that.

We might want to ponder on the words said by family members after Mary’s death.

  • Why? Why her? Why so young? “Why?” is a question with no answer — and a dangerous one. It’s the question that’s the cutoff line between those who get bitter and those who grow.
  •  The question has to be: “now that this situation is here, how will I chose to deal with it? As a family, we couldn’t control the “why” of it, but we could control at least some of the “how”, by trying to do as good a job as we were capable of in dealing with it. 
  • Cancer is a type of thing that can tear a family apart. The constant barrage of chemotherapy and surgeries followed by the possibility of more bad news becomes very stressful. Our family worked to support each other as we went through various stages of exhaustion and grief … It’s easy to become bitter and turn your back on religion in these difficult times, but we chose to put our faith in each other and God to help get us through. 

Mary’s story happened 29 years ago. This book was published in 2015. You might want to ask: Why take so long to write? This is what the author said: Maybe it’s that we’re now a lot older, in our 70s and feel a need to tell the story.

Jim (Mary’s brother wrote): For 27 years, only the family had copies of this journal but recently we thought it might help others going through similar circumstances and decided to make it available to anyone who wanted it. Hopefully, our story can help with whatever you’re needing at the time that you read it.

Comments

For over 20 over years, I have been helping cancer patients. I have talked to patients about their problems. I have heard all kinds of sad stories. But this book stands out to be one of its kind. Each page consists of a day to day “no holds barred” account of what and how 22-year-old Mary went through her cancer treatment.

As I read this book, I could also feel the anger, fear, frustration, disappointment, helplessness, acceptance and eventually peace. Mary had good, dedicated doctors to help her. But there was that much any human being could do. Even up to this day, we know that surgery, radiation, and chemo would not cure sarcoma.

As I am writing this review, I have three files of sarcoma patients in front of me: a four-and-half-year old  girl, and two ladies, thirty years old and fifty-three years old. They had gone through what Mary had gone through. Now, they came to CA Care for help, as a last resort. It is sad indeed.

The basis of the so-called scientific treatment of cancer remains unchanged over the decades, so is the result! Let me end this article with the following quotations ….

 

 

 

 

Colon Cancer: Surgery and chemo failed to cure him. Part 2: Go seek spiritual guidance!

Guna is a 45-year-old Indonesian. He underwent surgery and chemotherapy for his colon cancer. Things were fine for a while. But two and a half years later, his cancer recurred in his abdomen and lung. The doctor suggested a PET scan to be followed by another surgery and/or more chemotherapy.

What to do now?

From our years of experience, this is the stage when most patients come to CA Care for help. And their expectation — to find a magic bullet to cure their cancer! To them I have this answer. No, I cannot cure you! That was exactly what I told Guna and his wife.

I spent about two hours listening to his sad story. But what can I say? What had to be done (based on the doctor’s recommendation) had been done. The result is a tragic failure.

If I have my way, I would want to send Guna and wife away and tell them to do what the doctors want them to do. Then we see what happen next and at the same time hope for the best! But I did not have the heart to say “no”.

I saw the despair in their faces. Guna and his wife probably expected me to say that I can cure them! I cannot! And I told them I am not god. It is better to be honest than to mislead them — to sell false promise or false hope!

It is always my policy to tell patients the truth — clearly and bluntly. I hope they can learn something from what I said. Likewise, I also hope that Guna and his wife have learned their lesson after this failure. The reality speaks for itself. But many people cannot see reality. You need to tell them that they are blind! Hopefully they learn how to see.

For Guna, there are two options.

One, go back to the doctors and undergo what medical science has to offer. But no, Guna and his wife did not want to do that.

Two, follow our therapy. His wife said, let’s take the herbs and hopefully this will cure him. But I said, No way!

Before I sent them away empty-handed, I asked one final question. To whom do you pray? The wife answered, Buddha.

Okay, why don’t you go home and take time to talk to Buddha. Ask Him for guidance. Then follow what He says. For those reading this article, this is exactly what I would say to YOU too, if you come and see me at this late stage. What else can I do?

Guna’s wife answer turned the table on me. After being told of his relapse, Guna’s wife  was very upset and confused, not knowing what to do. She then went to pray and consulted the medium of two Buddhist temples in Medan. She was told “not to undergo further medical treatment and should see Dr. Chris instead.”

They did exactly that — flew to Penang specially to consult with us. I could not send them home just like that — “empty handed.”

Listen to our conversation.

 

 

Gist of our conversation

Chris: What can you do now? Yes, follow the doctor’s advice. Go for a PET scan. With the scan we can know if the cancer has spread elsewhere. This is from the doctor’s viewpoint. But for you, I am not sure what benefit you will get out of it.

As you told me earlier, the first time you did chemotherapy the doctor said chemo was going to reduce the chances of recurrence. Without chemo, the chances of recurrence would be higher. You did what the oncologist asked you to do. And the cancer still come back! So, what is the benefit then?

Perhaps, if you did not do the chemo, you would be better off? Who knows?

How long after the chemo that the cancer came back?

Wife: After two and a half years.

C: Ask yourself this question. If after the PET scan they find more tumours. Can you cut out all of them? Not likely. Yes, can cut, but can that cure you? Earlier on one big tumour was cut out. What happened? It came back in spite of the cutting and the chemo. So what do you expect the result is going to be this time around?

W: According to your opinion, what is the best way out?

C: I don’t know. If I use my head, option1 is for you to follow your doctor’s advice. Go for a PET scan, operate and chemo. I really cannot say if this is going to do you any good. It is up  to you.

Guna: What is your advice? I am already confused.

C: I am just as confused. If I tell you to take our herbs, and after a few months the scan shows that the tumour has grown bigger, you will blame me! How?

Go, Seek Spiritual Guidance

C: Who do you pray to?

W: To Buddha.

C: Okay, you can go home. In your quiet time pray to Buddha and ask Him to show you the way. Take your time — one or two weeks, to meditate and pray. Ask Buddha to open a path for you. You are already  confused and lost. Ask Buddha to help you.

I am not Buddha. I can cheat you. Buddha will not cheat you. So go home and pray.

After that follow what Buddha tells you.

W: Last week, I went home to Medan. I went to two temples to pray. I consulted the medium. I told him about my husband’s problems. I also told him about my plan to fly to Penang to see Dr. Chris. The medium replied: Yes, go and see Dr. Chris. Both the two medium told me it is better to consult Dr. Chris instead of the doctor.

C: The medium did not tell you to go for medical treatment?

W: No, go and see Dr. Chris.

C: Are you sure?

W: Yes.

C: Did you really go to consult these medium?

W: Yes.

C: (Asking Guna) Now the medium told you to come here. Do you believe that?

G: I have no choice. No other option. I don’t know what to do. So I have to believe what the Spirit told me.

C: If our therapy does not turn out right — no good results — who is going to be responsible?

G: That’s my fate.

C: So, you would accept it as fated. And you are not going to blame me if our herbs are not effective?

W: No.

G: Yes right (we will not blame you).

C: Since you have no other way out, let me explain again. You have two options. One is to follow your doctors and do what they want you to do — scan, operate, chemo and chemo. Spend all your money and eventually you die. This is one option.

Option two, is to see me and follow our therapy. No scan, no chemo. But there is no cure. You want that? You want to follow this path?

G: You say cannot cure. But does that mean we can make the cancer stop growing? Can live longer?

C: I cannot answer that. I cannot guarantee. Different people react differently. But I know this — if I am a businessman and only think of making money — I can say these to you:

Yes, the herbs can shrink the tumour, they herbs will stop the cancer from spreading, the herbs will prevent recurrence. Also if you take our herbs, it will prolong your life.

If I say all these to you, know that I am just bluffing — telling you a bunch of lies.

Do you understand what I am trying to tell you?

I don’t want to cheat my patients. Also understand this — if you take our herbs and you believe that you will not be cured, know that you will never be cured! You will not benefit from our therapy. On the other hand, if you believe that our herbs will heal you, may be you will be healed. I cannot tell you for sure.

Do you understand this?

I have many patients who took our herbs and followed our therapy after their surgery. They did not go for any chemo. They survived for many years — eight years, ten years and are still okay today.

What does this mean? Healing is about YOU. And only YOU can heal yourself. Do you really want to take care of yourself? Do you really want to follow our instructions? Do you really want to change your lifestyle and your diet? What is in your head is important — the worry, the stress, etc. These are all important.

If you want to take our herbs but don’t believe in what we do, then don’t take our herbs. It is not going to help you.  No use.

In the same note, after taking our herbs, everyday you worry and ask when you will be cured — my answer is, you will never be cured! You make your life too stressful, fighting inside you!

If you take our herbs and feel good. Can eat, can sleep, no pain — don’t think too much. And don’t ask for more.

The most important thing to remember is to take care of your diet. Don’t eat what we tell you not to eat.

Be at peace without yourself. May be you may end up living longer a bit.

We tell our patients to learn how to live with their cancer.

A Patient Who Does Not Understand Gratitude

There was a man who had liver cancer. The doctor could not cure him. He came and took our herbs and he lived for two and half years without any problem. He was strong and healthy.

But I told him, I could not cure his cancer.

He came to know about a treatment in China. Someone said in the hospital there they can cure your cancer! So this man told his family: Dr Teo’s cannot cure me. I want to go to China for my cure. He spent S$60,000 and after six months of treatment he came home on a wheelchair. His stomach was bloated. He died.

Too bad. He was with us for two and a half years. He did not have to spend that kind of money. He was okay and well. But he wanted a cure!

So if any one of you come here and ask me to cure you, my answer is simple and blunt: NO CURE!

CA Care Therapy

Back to you. If this is what you wanted to do — take our herbs and follow our therapy, let me remind you again.

Take care of yourself.

Take care of your diet.

Change your lifestyle.

Believe in what you are doing.

I don’t know — may be one day you may end up healing yourself. I have many patients who survived for years and are still doing fine.

But can I cure you? I don’t think so. But can you live a normal, healthy life? Yes, many patients are doing fine but the moment they don’t follow our instructions, they die!

Comments

This is another article which I believe for many would not like to read or find it difficult to swallow. I make no apology for saying what I have said. If you want to survive cancer, you have to be on the right track — do the right thing and have to make hard choices. The question is: Do you really want to live or to die? What a question to ask!

Yes, many who came always tell us — I have a strong desire to live. I am ready to fight. Really?

Seventy percent of those who came to us, are patients I know cannot make it — say what you like. It is easy to say I want to live. But for these people, to do what it takes to live is another matter! If I cannot eat laksa, life is not worth living! And you dare say you have the will to live!!!

There are a few lessons we can learn from Guna’s tragic story.

  1. 1. Medical treatments — surgery and chemo — did not cure cancer. Chemotherapy was given based on meaningless expectation. If chemo can reduce recurrence by only 10 percent, then what use is it?

Guna was not explicitly told by the oncologist the reality that the treatment had a 40 percent chance of failure, based on the statistics he quoted.

Patients want 100 percent chance of NO recurrence. You don’t need to have a university education to understand that what Guna was subjected to did not make sense from day one!

Patients are just like  pawns. Trapped like the foot soldiers fighting in the battle field, while the general sits in the safety and comfort of his bunker. Helpless patients are confused and desperate. Full of fear, they panic and don’t know what to do.

That was how Guna and his wife felt after the battle was lost. They did not know what the next step is.

  1. There is another failure in medicine. Dr. Barry Boyd in his book, The cancer recovery plan, wrote:
  • Many doctors don’t bother to counsel their patients after treatment. Once cancer treatment is completed, most patients are left on their own to cope with the rest of their lives. This is what I call falling off the cliff. Patients are left in free fall.

Correct. After surgery and chemo, Guna was left on his own, to fend for himself. There is no guidance of what to do after the treatments. When the cancer recurred, the doctors have ready answers for him: do PET scan, go for more surgery and more chemo — more of the same treatments that did not work, right?

Now, let me share with you a few quotations written by doctors who understand a bit more about cancer. Hear what they said.

Dr. Martin L. Rossman in his book Fighting Cancer from Within, wrote:

  • Conventional medical care for cancer has for many years concentrated on destroying tumors without paying much attention to supporting the patient as a whole person, with innate healing capacities … Most people put themselves in the hands of an oncologist and did what they were told. While you almost certainly need a good oncologist to prescribe and monitor your medical treatment, there is often much more to surviving cancer. 
  • A strong spiritual belief system is helpful when fighting cancer.

Charles Smith, M.D., is a prominent urologist who specialized for years in treating prostate cancer. Then he himself  had prostate cancer. After going through medical treatment, he wrote:

  • Cancer is not just a lump in your body that can be cut out or killed by radiation or drugs. I have come to the conclusion that you, as a patient, cannot simply allow the management of your cancer and your life to be limited by the narrow views of the physicians you encounter. 
  • A major problem with the conventional approach to cancer …(is) it does little or nothing to promote the health, vitality, and well-being of the person who is fighting that cancer.

Rachel Naomi Remen was born into a family of doctors and nurses. At age 15 she was diagnosed with severe Crohn’s disease. Throughout medical school, residency and fellowship she was a very ill person. In all, Dr. Rachel Naomi was chronically sick for over fifty years.

She survived her sickness and is now professor of family and community medicine at the University of California San Francisco. This is what she wrote (in Foreword, Fighting Cancer from Within):

  • A diagnosis of cancer is a personal encounter with the will to live … the will to live cannot be measured, which puts it beyond the reach of science. 
  • Science defines life in its ways but life is larger than science. Many things happen that science cannot predict or explain. 
  • In my forty years of medical practice, people have often told me that they have recovered from their cancer because of chemotherapy, surgery or radiation. 
  • Chemotherapy and radiation may be the means by which we recover but the reason that we recover may be something quite different, something we brought with us to our doctor’s office and not something that we found there.
  • We each heal in ways that are as unique as our fingerprints.

In other words, to heal and survive cancer, patients need more than just surgery, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Now many of you reading this, know this truth? How many of your doctors or oncologists dare to admit that patients need more than their surgery, chemo or radiation to overcome cancer?

Guna said he is just a layman. He followed everything what the doctors wanted him to do. He ended up in a deep, dark pit and did not know how to get out of it.

I really don’t know what is going to happen to Guna. I can only pray that he keeps to his words to live well, keeps up his spirit and perseveres.

 

 

 

Colon Cancer: Surgery and chemo failed to cure him. Part 1: So, what’s next?

Guna is a 45-year-old Indonesian. He was diagnosed with colon cancer and had an operation.  Guna then came to CA Care but decided to undergo chemotherapy instead. He received 8 cycles of chemotherapy. Each cycle cost about RM5,000. Every six-monthly follow-up examination showed he was well.

However, in March 2017, i.e. about two and half years later, a CT scan showed the following:

  1. An 8 mm nodule in left lumbar region, marginally increased in size. This could represent mesenteric lymph node.
  2. There is a 2.2 x 2.1 cm hypodense lesion in the left lower lumbar region, increased in size. Tumour deposit is considered.
  3. There is a 8 mm nodule in the left upper lobe of lung. This is suspicious of tumor or metastasis.
  4. Prostate is enlarged, measuring 3.4 x 6.8 x 4.6 cm.

The oncologist suggested that Guna do a PET scan to assess if there is any further spread of the cancer. If the metastasis is not extensive, Guna needs another surgery. If the metastasis is extensive, Guna has to undergo chemotherapy again.

Not knowing what to do, Guna went back to consult the surgeon who operated on him. He was given the same advice — go for a PET scan. A PET scan would cost RM4,000 plus.

Confused and not knowing what to do, Guna’s wife consulted the medium of two Buddhist temples in Medan. She was told “not to undergo further medical treatment and should see Dr. Chris instead.”

So, it was. A sad morning indeed. How did I handle such a case? Listen carefully to the video below.

 

 

Gist of our conversation

Guna: The oncologist asked me to go for a PET scan. If the result shows no extensive spread, then I need an operation. If the cancer has spread extensively, then no operation. Just chemotherapy.

Chris: PET scan can  show if there are any more cancer somewhere else. But after knowing this, what do you want to do? I don’t know what to say. I agree, you can go ahead and do the PET scan if  you like. This is to know exactly what is going on in your body. Correct logic – go ahead.

But after spending RM4000 plus for the PET scan what benefit do you hope to get? What if after the scan shows there are many more tumours. What do you want to do? Or what can you do?

The doctors say, go for another operation. Do you want that? You have to decide for yourself.

Or you have to go for more chemo. Do you want that?

Wife: My idea is this. We do not go for all these. Just take your herbs. May be that will help (cure?).

C: I don’t have any magic herbs to do that. You have already done 8 cycles of chemo and paid RM40K for that treatment. It did not cure you. It is not right for me to tell you that my herbs will make the tumours go away. How can? No, just not right and not honest! I am not god.

If you were to come and see me earlier — immediately after your operation —  and you started to take the herbs, maybe the story would be different. But you did not believe me then.

Now the cancer had metastatised and you expect my herbs to cure you. No way. But I am not blaming you. Cases like yours are very common! Operate, chemo and the cancer recurred. That is nothing unusual.

At CA Care, I want to be honest with my patients. I don’t want to mislead you. From my experience, I know that there is NO cure for cancer. Now, you have experienced this yourself. You have undergone the operation, had chemotherapy and spent so much money — did these treatments cure you? No, right? Now, you understand what I mean.

Most patients came here after their medical treatments have failed them. Then, they expect me to cure them! What can I do?

So, what do you want me to do for you?

As far as the oncologist is concerned there is a CT scan in the hospital. Okay use it. You pay RM4000 plus for that. I cannot dispute that suggestion. I also want to know what is going on in you. The scan can tell you that.

But think for yourself first, what do you want to do after the PET scan? Operation? Chemo again?

So, to ask you to go for the scan is not right. Not to ask you to go for the scan is also not right. My main concern is not to spend too much money to do something which may not benefit you.

So, what do you want to do now?

G: I really don’t know what to do now.

C: I too don’t know what to do. But I know the doctor knows what to do. He will ask you to go for more chemo.

Ask if Chemo Can Cure You

The last time you had your chemotherapy (two and a half years ago), did you ask the doctor if the treatment was going to cure you? Did you ask?

G: I did. The doctor said if no chemo, the chances of recurrence is higher. With chemo, the chances of recurrence is lower.

C: Chemo is said to reduce the chances of recurrence only? Reduction of a recurrence is not necessarily a cure. Right?

G: Yes.

C: Of course no one is going to say things honestly. Actually reducing the chances of recurrence also implies there is “no cure.” No guarantee that the cancer goes away.

Did the oncologist tell you about the percentage benefits you would get from chemo?

G: If no chemo, the chances of recurrence is 50:50. If chemo the chances of recurrence is 40:60, meaning 60 percent no recurrence.

C: This seems to say that the benefit of chemotherapy is only 10 percent. Chances of recurrence reduced from 50 percent to 40 percent. Right?

It also means that even with chemo there is still a 40 percent chance that the cancer can recur and the treatment will fail. Is that not what it means?

But cancer patients like you want a 100 percent chance of no recurrence, 100 percent of cure. Right?

Now you understand what I mean when I told you that there is no cure for cancer.

So, what can I do for you now?

Most patients who come to see me are asking for a cure. They expect the cancer to just disappear. Correct? It is not fair. You have undergone the surgery and had chemo and these did not cure you. Now, you expect the herbs cure you?

G: I am just a layman. I just did everything that the doctor wanted me to do.

C: I understand. Now, tell me what can I do for you? I am not god. I also feel very sad to hear your story. It breaks my heart.

G: I am confused.

C: I understand. I am also confused.

Comments

I am aware that some of you reading this would not like what I said. Surely you are entitled to your opinion. Most patients come wanting to hear what they want to hear only — they want to hear me saying that I can cure them.

If you belong to this group of patients, let me tell you. I know of some herbalists who can guarantee that their herbs can cure your cancer! You want to go there? Come and see me personally and I can show you the way to them if you like!

Take it from me, facing patients like this one is heart breaking. If I could have my way, I would want to send them away “empty-handed.” Go home and think first what you want to do. Or I would say, go to someone else who can help you. This is to say, I am being polite and indirectly telling you not to come and see me.

But for Guna and his wife this morning, it did not turn out that way. Both the patient and his wife went away rather satisfied. Part 2 of this story tells you why!

 

 

 

 

Fixing Frequent Urination Problems

Tom is a 76-year-old American. He found Penang a lovely place and decided to live here temporarily!

One day in March 2017, Tom came to CA Care to ask for help. One of his problem is frequent urination. For umpteen years (he could remember how many!) he had been deprived of a good sleep having to wake up 3 to 4 times a night to urinate. Generally his routine was to go to bed at about 11 p.m. Then every one to two hours he had to wake up to go to the toilet. With such disturbed sleep he woke up the next day “exhausted” feeling “terrible”.

Tom said, for him to go to bed is something he did not look forward to because he knew what would come after that!

Tom had been living with this problem for years. I asked him: Did you go to someone for help? Tom replied, No.

Tom explained that he had been to the doctor who examined him for prostate problem. No, he did not like the way the medical people treated him! So for years he just let it be.

When Tom presented me with this problem, I suggested that Tom took our herbal tea, A-Kid-6 which is formulated for such a problem. I also warned Tom that the taste of the tea is bitter and awful. Not many non-Orientals could tolerate that. Also, he can just try the herbs for a week or two and see what happens.

Tom did exactly that.

Tom updated me of his progress via e-mail. Below is what he wrote:

Day 4 on herbs

IT IS WORKING !!!  I ONLY GOT UP TWICE LAST NIGHT AND SLEPT FROM 10:30 PM UNTIL 6:30 AM.  I cannot remember the last time I slept 8 hours.  Fantastic and I feel much better this morning.

Day 5:

Unbelievable !  I … went to bed at 9:30 PM.  Had to get up twice and then slept until 7:30 AM.  Fantastic.  10 hours sleep.  I do not think I have had 10 hours sleep in the last 40 years.

Day 10:

Sleep and up to urinate has been up and down.  Last night was ok. Got 8 hours but up 3 times. Had a couple of nights last week that were bad again.  Little sleep and up 4 to 5 times.

Day 11:

Did you pray for me last night? I slept about 7.5 hours BUT ONLY HAD TO GET UP ONE TIME !

Day 12:

Good news.  Last night I got 8 hours sleep and only got up 1 time !  Thank you !!!

Tom shared his story in this video below.

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Thank you Tom for sharing your story!

I am sure there are many others out there who have problems like Tom. But I hope they are not like Tom — having to suffer for years and years!

From this story, I hope you know that such problem can be easily fixed! And it can be fixed cheaply too! Come to CA Care and you don’t have to pay for any consultation fee. As for the A-Kid-6 herbal tea it is less than RM100 (about USD 22.00) for two weeks.

But to be fair, there is no guarantee that this herbal tea can definitely solve your problem although we know that this herbal tea did help many others like Tom.

When I prescribed A-Kid-6 to patients, one thing I always remember is how I learned to solve this problem. After all I only work with cancer, not urination problem. However, there are many cancer patients who presented with frequent urination problems.

Some years ago, Dr.  Adrian Larsen, President of Miridia Technology Inc., USA, donated us a unit of AcuGraph 3 for our research at CA Care. We used this tool to evaluate the energy balance of various organs in the body.  From this tool, we have come to learn that frequent urination could be the result of low or split bladder median (see: https://ejtcm.com/2011/03/25/low-or-split-bladder-meridian-may-result-in-frequent-urination/). Herbal tea like A-Kid-6 has been shown to restore the bladder energy.

CA Care is ever grateful to Dr. Larsen for his generosity. I told Tom, At least now I have a chance to help his fellow American! Dr. Larsen should know this!

 

 

 

 

 

Lung Cancer: Spend RM80,000 and You Get Free Tarceva for Life

Sam (not real name) is 63 years old. Sometime in June 2016, he had pain in his right arm. An X-ray was done and the doctor said it could be due to muscle problem. He was asked to go for physiotherapy. It did not help.

In January 2017, his right arm was swollen and his condition became more serious. He consulted an orthopedic doctor. There was nothing wrong!

Sam was admitted into a private hospital on 11 February 2017 for further examination.

MRI on 12 February 2017 showed a 3.1 x 2.3 cm mass at the distal humerus (bone in the upper arm) involving the triceps muscle. Incidentally, the doctor also found a suspicious 4.4 x 5.2 cm lesion in the lower zone of his right lung.

A CT scan done the next day, 13 February 2017, confirmed the presence of an irregular 4.3 x 4.38 x 3.96 cm mass in his lung. There were also multiple enlarged lymph nodes in the pretracheal and carina. The largest being 2.69 x 1.77 x 1.9 cm and 3.48 x 2.91 x 1.61 cm respectively.

In short, the cancer had spread. But the question is: Spread from the lung to the bone, or from the bone to the lung? A biopsy of the bone showed negative for malignancy. A biopsy of the lung showed positive for cancer.

The total cost of the 4-day-stay in the hospital for the above procedures cost RM 12,595.90.

So what comes next? What to do. The doctor suggested the following options:

  1. Chemotherapy.
  2. Immunotherapy.
  3. Target therapy — taking of oral chemo-drug if it is positive for EGFR.
  4. Bisphosphonate, a drug that slows down or prevent bone damage. Depending on the type of drug given, this is to be taken either once a day, once a week (on the same day of the week), or once a month (on the same day of the month).

Listen to our conversation this morning!

Gist of our conversation.

Daughter: My father has lung cancer. It is positive for EGFR. The doctor suggested taking the oral targeted therapy, Tarceva. One box, lasting one month, cost about RM8,000. After we take Tarceva for 10 months, and if the medicine works, for the rest of his life the medicine will be free. But must complete the ten boxes first. That’s the deal!

Chris: You mean after spending RM80,000 they will give you Tarceva for free for life? But what happen if your father dies before the ten months?

D: I was thinking. May be my father cannot last that long. Maybe before the ten boxes, sure die one.

C: I have one patient who came and see me. She was asked to take Nevaxar (for liver cancer). The deal was buy one, free one. But must pay RM20,000 first (for the first month’s supply) and next month she will get one month’s supply of Nexavar for free! But after she took the drug for a week, her health deteriorated, had to be hopitalised and she died. Already paid RM20,000, cannot claim back.

So back to you, Tarceva is a good deal. Why don’t you want to take the drug? Can take the drug for life and no need to pay.

D: (Shaking her head) No, don’t want.

C: Did you ask if Tarceva can cure or not?

D: It will control the cancer cells, so that they never spread.

C: But cannot cure?

D: That’s what I asked him (doctor). The tumour is going to be there.

C: That means, cannot cure la because the tumour is still there.

D:  In about 5 percent of patients, the tumour shrink.
C: What happen to the 95 percent, tumour never shrink?

D; Under control.

C: I tell you. For some people the tumour was totally gone after taking the drug. But a few months later, the tumour came back again. And this time it was twice the size.

Did the doctor tell you about the side effects of Tarceva?

D: Ya, I asked. Diarrhoea, only that.

C: Only that?

D: Ya, mild one only.

C: You believe him or not?

D: May be not.

C: I tell you. Don’t just listen to me only. I can bluff you. Go back and read more. Read what others say.

D: I prefer natural medicine.

C: I shall do my best to help you. I shall give you herbal teas for his lung, lymph nodes and bone. The herbs are bitter — awful taste. Can or not?

Know that I cannot cure your cancer. But take herbs and see if they can help you or not. If you take the herbs for a month, I am going to ask you if you feel better or not. If you don’t feel better, then no need to come and see me anymore. If you feel better, continue taking the herbs.

When can you stop taking the herbs? I really don’t know. But if you are feeling better, why stop it? Because I know there is no cure for cancer.

In America, most people with stage 4 lung cancer die within a year. But, I am not saying you are going to die soon. Go home and read the stories (in the website).

Of course, all of us have to die. So don’t worry about death. What is important is, don’t die suffering. Want to die also cannot, want to live also cannot. That’s terrible.

So, I shall try to help you. If it’s good, continue. If no good, don’t continue. Go home, take care of yourself and take care of your diet.

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They say knowledge is power. This is true! To me, with cancer, ignorance kills!

I am glad that Sam’s daughter is smart! She asked questions. And she “processed” the answers given!

In this world today, we read about “fake news”, “fake information”, “cybertrooper”, etc.. So please be on guard and beware.

As I was writing this story, one lady came to ask for help. She was also given Tarceva for her lung cancer. For about one month plus, Tarceva seemed good for her. Then she started to suffer side effects. After seven months the side effects were unbearable and she gave up Tarceva totally. No, she did not hit the 10-month-mark! The irony is, this lady is a medical staff of a hospital. She should know better!

Listen to her story.

Google “side effects of Tarceva” and you get this. No, it is more than just mild diarrhoea!

Side effects of Tarceva include:

  • Acid or sour stomach
  • belching
  • blemishes on the skin
  • bloated or full feeling
  • bone pain
  • burning, dry, or itching eyes
  • diarrhea (mild)
  • difficulty with moving
  • dizziness
  • dry eyes
  • dry skin
  • excess air or gas in the stomach or intestines
  • excessive tearing
  • fear
  • feeling sad or empty
  • feeling unusually cold
  • hair loss
  • headache
  • heartburn
  • indigestion
  • irritability
  • itching skin
  • joint pain
  • loss of interest or pleasure
  • nervousness
  • passing gas
  • pimples
  • rash, mild
  • redness, pain, or swelling of the eye, eyelid, or inner lining of the eyelid
  • shivering
  • stomach discomfort, upset, or pain
  • swelling
  • swelling or inflammation of the mouth
  • swollen joints
  • thinning of the hair
  • tiredness
  • trouble or inability to sleep
  • trouble with concentrating
  • weight loss
  • loosening of the fingernails
  • redness or soreness around the fingernails.

Source: https://www.drugs.com/sfx/tarceva-side-effects.html

More about the side effects of Tarceva:

Meaningless Shrinking of Tumor While on Tarceva https://cancercaremalaysia.com/2012/04/26/meaningless-shrinking-of-tumor-while-on-tarceva-treatment/ 

Meaningless Decline of CA 15.3 and Tumour Shrinkage Following Treatment With Iressa and Tarceva https://cancercaremalaysia.com/2012/04/26/meaningless-decline-of-ca-15-3-and-tumour-shrinkage-following-treatment-with-iressa-and-tarceva/ 

 

Update: Daughter wrote to say father died on 7 October 2017

Living with Your Rotten Breast, anyone?

There are two other cases of breast cancer that “hit” me this morning.

Kathy (not real name) is a lady in her mid-forties. She dropped by our centre after learning from a friend about CA Care.

In 1998 (that’s 19 years ago!), Kathy felt a small lump in her left breast. She did nothing about it, although she said she started to pay attention to her diet. By taking care of her diet she was hoping the lump would go away. Unfortunately, contrary to the claims in the internet, the lump did not go away.

Kathy said she endured severe stress when at work — it was always work, work and work in the office. In addition, she suffered emotional stress due to family problems.

In 2010 (that’s 17 years ago), Kathy noticed that the lump grew bigger. She did nothing about it.

Chris: Why did you not go and see a doctor and do something about it?

Kathy: I don’t believe in the doctors anymore! My 54-year-old sister had cancer of the uterus. She went to a hospital in our hometown and underwent an operation. Then she had four rounds of chemotherapy. Each round of chemo consisted of six cycles. (That’s a total of 24 cycles). She died within three years.

So, NO. I don’t want to do any chemo.

In 2011, Kathy underwent a nutritional-colon-cleansing therapy. The therapy was for 7 days. This cost RM1,200. Then in 2014, Kathy came to Penang again for another session of the therapy. This cost RM2,700.

Now, this is what her breast looks like.

 

Kathy claimed that after her therapy in Penang, the lump became smaller (like the picture in the right above).

Listen to our conversation.

 

My advice.

  1. Go and see a doctor and have your rotten breast removed. No, it is no use taking my herbs if the tumour is still there. You will not be able to cure this.
  2. I understand your reluctance to undergo chemotherapy or radiotherapy. But take it from me that at times you need medical treatment like surgery to help you.
  3. The doctor may want you to undergo a few cycles of chemo to shrink the tumour before he can remove the tumour. If you have to do that, go ahead and do it. I can give you Chemo-tea to help you with the side effects.
  4. The thing to do now is to go and find a doctor who can help you. Ask him questions and see how he answers you questions. If you don’t like his “attitude / response ” then walk away and go find someone you are happy with.
  5. Before the surgery, ask how much the procedure is going to cost you. Can he cure you? What does he want you to do after surgery?
  6. You have to learn how to take care of yourself after the operation. Avoid stress, do exercise, take care of your diet, and you can take herbs.
  7. The most important thing is for you to first find peace within your heart. Then follow what your heart says. I am not going to force you to do what you don’t want to do. It is your life and you decide.
  8. So go home and evaluate what I have told you. Seek spiritual help. Pray.
  9. After surgery, if you need help, come and see me and I shall help you the best I can.
  10. For now, I am not going to prescribe you any herbs. No use. Give yourself a month to decide. 

Case 3: Breast Burst and Bled after Keladi Tikus!

This is an email I received this same  morning. I don’t attempt to edit it. Here it goes:

31 March 2017

Dear Chris,

Good Day!

I have mom which suffer of breast cancer. Previously almost 4 month she consume the Keladi Tikus (Typhonium).

After 4 months the breast suddenly burst and bleeding. We send my mom to Hospital and found its already stage 4 but the burst part the cancer didn’t exist anymore.

Then my mom hand become swallow like full of water and its start coming out through the armpit.

Now every day we send to clinic to do dressing and eat the apricot seed & sour sop fruit & turmeric soup. My mom afraid to eat the Typhonium anymore.

Sometimes the breast beating and we did not sure what the causes, either by foods that she consume or may be the medicine effect.

Can some one help us what should we do. My mom should do chemotherapy and surgery can’t be done because of age factor. 

Reply: Where are you from  …. Jakarta? Where did you get the keladi tikus?

Dear Chris,

Im from Malaysia and i got it from Kuala Lumpur supplier ? Why ?

Did any fake Keladi Tikus at any market, I will check the brands name at advise accordingly.

Reply: The stuff is not mine …. I advise you to go and see the doctor and have the breast removed!

Dear Chris,

Has been see doctor and they unable to remove cause of age factor.

Thanks for your time.

Reply: How old ??????  My herbs cannot cure.

Dear Chris,

65 years old.

Reply: I am really sorry I don’t know what to say or advise. I also don’t know how to solve your problem. No one on earth can cure any cancer. Why don’t you go and consult the doctors in Institute Kanker Negara in Putrajaya? May be they can help.  I am only sitting down in front of a computer.

If you still want  help …. come and see me in Penang with all the reports.

Something is not right .. and the keladi tikus is not mine! People believe too much in newspaper reports.

Dear Chris,

It’s okay. Thank for your time and will try to consult in Inst. Kanker Negara.

Comment

They say, ignorance is bliss. They also say, knowledge is power (and may even save your life). Make your choice.

As much as I feel sad to see these cases, I know that patients need to find healing for themselves. At CA Care we are only able to show you the way. You need to decide what you want to do. Most important of all, you need to walk that healing path yourself.

You can choose or dictate what you want to do, but you cannot choose its outcome. 

Choose what you should do, not what you want to do.

 

 

 

A 17 cm Phyllodes Tumour in Her Breast

This morning I got “hit” by three breast cancer cases. Here is one really pathetic case.

Alice (not real name) is a 27-year-old lady. About 15 years ago, Alice she felt a lump in her right breast. There was no pain. So she did nothing about it. The lump did not grow bigger either. But in later years, the mass started to grow bigger — slowly, according to Alice. Again she did nothing about it.

In June 2016, the lump started to grow bigger and faster. She came to a private hospital in November 2016 and was told to have the lump removed. She did not do it because at the time her husband was diagnosed with TB.

So from June 2016 to November 2016, Alice did nothing about her condition.

When things went out of control, from November 2016 (until now) Alice started to take kunyit putih, Vitamin C and cordycep.

On 30 March 2017, Alice and her husband came to another private hospital in Penang. A CT scan was done. Alice was told to do a biopsy. She refused.

CT scan of her right breast showed:

  • A soft tissue mass measuring 17.7 x 10.7 x 12.9 cm in size, in the right breast. Suspicious of phyllodes tumour.
  • Multiple smaller enhancing nodules can be seen scattered within the left breast, approximately up to 1.5 cm. This is likely to represent fibroadenoma.
  • No evidence of distant metastases.

This is how her right breast looks like.

 

In her left breast are 14 nodules. The sizes range from 2 mm to 17 mm.

 

 

My advice to his young lady and her husband.

Chris: When you come here, what do you expect me to do for you?

Husband: To make the tumour smaller.

C: To also cure you?

Alice: Yes.

C: No way. It is not realistic. I suggest that you go and have the tumour removed. Tell the doctor there is no need to do anymore biopsy. Just have the tumour removed.

I suggest you go and consult with these two doctors.

  • Ask the doctor how much the surgery cost.
  • Can he cure you?

After you have done the surgery, the doctor may suggest further treatments like chemotherapy. If you don’t want to do that, come and see me. Bring all the reports. And I shall try to help you.

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This is indeed a sad case. She is only 27 years old. It means that she had been having this tumour in her breast since she was 12 years old. How could this be?

Then, a year ago, the lump started to grow bigger and bigger, to the size of 17.7 x 12.9 cm. That was the one in her right breast. On her left breast, there are still 14 nodules which are still small. We can never know if these tiny “monsters” will grow bigger or not. Again, how could this be?

This is the first time, I have seen such a case. It does not make sense. I just wonder what has gone wrong with this world today?

According to the medical report Alice probably has phyllodes tumour. Fortunately too, there is no evidence of metastasis, i.e. the cancer has not spread to other parts of her body.

From the internet we can learn about phyllodes tumour as below:

  • Phyllodes tumor (cystosarcoma phyllodes) of the breast is rare, accounting for less than 1% of all breast tumors.
  • There are three kinds of phyllodes tumours. Phyllodes tumors which are benign (not cancerous), some are malignant (cancerous) and some are borderline (in between noncancerous and cancerous).
  • All three kinds of phyllodes tumors tend to grow quickly, but they rarely spread outside the breast.
  • It can occur at any age, but they tend to develop when a woman is in her 30s and 40s. Benign phyllodes tumor is usually diagnosed at a younger age than malignant phyllodes tumor.
  • The treatment for this tumour is surgery.

 

 

 

 

Breast Cancer: Surgery YES, Chemo NO

 

Fen (not real name) was 44-years old. In July 2015, she found a small lump at 2 o’clock position of her left breast. An USG confirmed the presence of a 1.5 x 10 x 1.3 cm irregular mass in left breast.

FNAC (biopsy) confirmed a ductal carcinoma.

Fen underwent a left mastectomy. Histopathology indicated the tumour was positive for ER, PR and c-ERB-2 receptors.

After surgery, Fen was asked to undergo chemotherapy and hormonal therapy. No radiation was indicated. According to her surgeon, the benefit of these treatments are as follows:

  1. If no treatment was done, the 5-year-survial rate would be 57%.
  2. If Fen was to take Tamoxifen (oral drug) the 5-year-survival rate would be 68%, meaning Tamoxifen would give a 11% benefit.
  3. If Fen was to take Tamoxifen and Chemotherapy, the 5-year-survial rate would be 81%. This means, chemotherapy would provide an additional 13% benefit.
  4. If Fen was to take Tamoxifen + Chemotherapy + Herceptin, the 5-year-surival would be 88%. This means, additional treatment with Herceptin would add another 7% benefit.

Heceptin is expensive. That drug alone would cost more than RM100,000.

But what can happen if Fen opted not to do any more medical treatments? Will she die soon? According to the doctor’s statistics, Fen has a 57% chance of surviving 5 years. Take note, she was to do everything what the doctor said, her chance of survival would be 88%. So medical treatments would provide 31% more chances of survival.

Perhaps, what is not told are:

  • What if the patient dies during or after the chemo?
  • The medical treatments would not give a 100 percent chance of cure. Some patients get worse with chemo. Some died while others suffered severe side effects.
  • How to know if Fen is in the “fortunate” or the “unfortunate” group of patients? Nobody can tell for sure.

Fen and her husband came to seek our help. My caution to the couple.

Chris: I don’t want you to go home and quarrel with your husband. So, go home and discuss with him first.

For whatever you want to do, everyone around you should all support you.

(To the husband) Give her all your support.

Fen: We have already decided. I don’t want to go for chemo. I am afraid my body cannot take it. I have a friend. She also had breast cancer, all three negative. She had chemo and suffered badly. After three cycles of chemo she gave up. Took some Chinese herbs and it is already four and a half years and she is doing fine. So I don’t want to go for chemo.

One and a half years later!

Chris: Your blood test results are all good. There is nothing wrong there!

Fen: I take care of my diet!

C: Good, and you don’t curi makan? Bluff, bluff a bit. There are patients who said, Yes I take care of my diet. But when I dig and dig further — no they did not keep to their diet. Why are they cheating themselves? When I said that, they got angry because they said I am blaming them. I don’t know what to say!

F: I understand your problem.

C: Do you get angry with me because I told you not to eat what you like?

F: Why should I get angry with you? I googled and learned that many other people also say the same thing.

C: Do you exercise?

F: I walk, four times a week. Each time about one hour.

C: You think too much?

F: No.

C: You were on the herbs for one and a half years now. How is your health compared to the time when you were not on the herbs?

F: I feel much better now.

C: Do you want to go back for chemotherapy?

F: NO!